No break-up is ever beautiful. More often than not, it is painful, it is messy and it leaves one or the other –or both, with either remorse, anger, bitterness, hurt or resentment –or all of it at the same time.

I am not only referring to romantic break-ups. Break-ups can happen within families, at work, in friendships and in partnerships. However it takes place, the feeling it gives is universal. We are, after all, just human beings.

But sometimes, it is has to happen. It takes a lot of courage and strong will to finally make that decision to walk away from something you had grown accustomed to. Something that has started to grow in you. Something you had put your hopes into. Something that is of great value to you.

And the hard part –there is never any guarantee that in doing so, in walking away, no one will get hurt.

Because someone always gets hurt. And that is why breaking up is hard to do.

As with anything that undergoes change, things can be hard to grasp. A bitter pill to swallow. Sometimes there won’t even be enough justifiable and acceptable reasons why things had to be done differently. But we live in an ever changing world, we lead ever changing lives, season after season. And as seasons change, so should we.

There are, of course, things that need to remain where they should, as they should be. Those core values and principles that shape us and keep us grounded, that no matter what kind of evolution would take place, they remain intact.

It is possible to became a new and changed person without losing who we are. We change and evolve with time but we can remain who we truly are. The person whose life matters. The person who was born with a purpose and a mission. The person who was here and is still here for a reason. That person is you. And that same person is me.

For that rediscovering and becoming to happen, sometimes a bad break-up may have to happen. And when it does, harsh judgement can be placed upon you. You become the villain who turned his or her back and walked away. And you can choose to remain quiet because deep down, it is you who knows you.

You know your truth and you speak your truth. And no one and nothing can break that. Not even a bad break-up.